Here are some of the narcissists that are in Jane Austen’s novels.
In my book “A Dear, Sweet Girl,” I explore the idea of Jane Bennet really being a covert narcissist instead of the good-natured person in canon.
It’s made me wonder about the other narcissists in Jane Austen’s novels. Who are they, and where is the evidence that they are narcissists?
What is a Narcissist?
First, we should probably talk about the definition of a narcissist.
Narcissism exists on a spectrum, with traits ranging from mildly self-centered behaviors to the more entrenched and harmful patterns found in individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
While not every narcissist exhibits every trait, the following characteristics are commonly associated with narcissism:
1. Grandiosity
- Narcissists often have an inflated sense of self-importance. They believe they are exceptional or unique and expect to be recognized as such, even without commensurate achievements.
- They may exaggerate their accomplishments or talents and view themselves as superior to others.
2. Need for Admiration
- A hallmark of narcissism is the constant need for attention, admiration, and validation from others.
- They might monopolize conversations, fish for compliments, or seek out situations where they can be in the spotlight.
3. Lack of Empathy
- Narcissists often struggle to genuinely understand or care about the feelings and needs of others.
- They may dismiss others’ emotions or fail to acknowledge how their actions impact those around them.
4. Sense of Entitlement
- Narcissists believe they deserve special treatment, privileges, or resources that others do not.
- They may expect others to cater to their needs without question and become angry or resentful when those expectations are not met.
5. Exploitative Behavior
- They may use others for personal gain, viewing relationships as opportunities to further their own goals rather than as mutually supportive connections.
- Narcissists often disregard others’ boundaries and manipulate people to get what they want.
6. Sensitivity to Criticism
- Despite their outward confidence, narcissists are often extremely sensitive to perceived slights or criticism.
- They may react with anger, defensiveness, or even aggression when their self-image is challenged.
7. Preoccupation with Appearance or Status
- Many narcissists place a high value on appearances, wealth, or social standing.
- They may be obsessed with curating a particular image, either in real life or online, to project success or superiority.
8. Difficulty Handling Failure or Rejection
- Narcissists often struggle to cope with setbacks, rejection, or failure. These experiences can lead to intense feelings of shame or humiliation.
- Instead of accepting responsibility, they may blame others, make excuses, or deny the situation altogether.
9. Manipulative or Controlling Behavior
- They may employ tactics such as gaslighting, guilt-tripping, or passive-aggressive comments to maintain control in relationships.
- These behaviors often undermine others’ confidence and keep the narcissist in a position of power.
10. Superficial Relationships
- Narcissists often prioritize quantity over quality in relationships. They may have many acquaintances but struggle to form deep, meaningful connections.
- They may also discard relationships that no longer serve their needs or provide admiration.
11. Envy or Jealousy
- Narcissists may feel envious of others’ successes, talents, or possessions while believing others are envious of them.
- This envy often fuels their need to compete or prove their superiority.
12. Arrogance
- Narcissists often display an attitude of arrogance or haughtiness, looking down on others they perceive as inferior.
- They may dismiss alternative viewpoints or belittle others to maintain a sense of dominance.
Not every narcissist exhibits these traits to the same degree. Some may display them occasionally or in specific situations, while others may embody these characteristics consistently and harmfully. Recognizing these traits can help you understand and navigate relationships with narcissistic individuals.
However, it’s essential to approach this knowledge with empathy, as narcissism often stems from deep insecurity, childhood trauma, or unmet emotional needs.
In my book “A Dear, Sweet Girl,” Jane’s narcissism stems from her mother’s constant compliments, as well as the severe, intense pressure to marry well and save her family.
Narcissists in Jane Austen’s Novels
The list of narcissists ended up being much longer than I expected, so I plan on making future posts that analyze the narcissists from each book.
For now, here is a list.
Pride and Prejudice
- Lady Catherine de Bourgh
- Caroline Bingley
- Mr. Collins
- Lydia Bennet
- George Wickham
Sense and Sensibility
- John Dashwood
- Fanny Dashwood
- Willoughby
- Lucy Steele
- Marianne Dashwood (early in the novel)
Emma
- Mrs. Elton (née Augusta Hawkins)
- Mr. Elton
- Emma Woodhouse (early in the novel)
- Frank Churchill
Mansfield Park
- Mrs. Norris
- Maria Bertram
- Henry Crawford
- Mary Crawford
Northanger Abbey
- John Thorpe
- Isabella Thorpe
- Captain Tilney
Persuasion
- Sir Walter Elliot
- Elizabeth Elliot
- Mr. Elliot
- Mary Musgrove
Lady Susan
- Lady Susan Vernon
Do you think I missed anyone? Let me know in the comments!
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